Tuesday, June 9, 2009

Reading Stephen Cope: Braving Stillness


This post was meant to be for Monday, but alas...

I started writing this on Sunday afternoon, and then around four, I realized that I felt horrible. Just horrible. A depressing sadness had descended upon me and I could not figure out why or from where.

Marcy and I learned two hours later that our dear friend, Ken, had passed away at 4:15. (Make the connections there that you wish.) As soon as I knew this, the depression lifted. I felt such relief that he was no longer suffering.

Of course, the freshness of this death is affecting my work. I am distracted. I am moody.

Yet I find that I am craving just what the first chapter of Stephen Cope's The Wisdom of Yoga says is necessary for any sort of spiritual growth: Stillness & Silence.

...we will have to convince ourselves of the necessity, the magic, the absolute brilliance of stillness. Over and over again, we will have to do this. (Cope, 19)

"We will have to convince ourselves..."

How often do we get so absorbed by our daily to-do lists that we cannot even fathom of a way to make room for silence and stillness?

How often do we convince ourselves that this busyness that we mistake for life is permanent?

How often do we decide that running errands, running around, running, running, running is more important than taking care of ourselves? Than sitting and listening?

And so we must be brave and we must choose our priorities very carefully, because whether we choose carefully or not, our choices become us. We become them.

Soon, we are at the end of our lives and wondering what happened...

Are you consciously choosing or are you allowing the undertow that is material life to drag you further out to sea...so far that your drowning becomes an inevitability?

Think carefully about these things. Do not allow your usual knee-jerk excuses to assert themselves as the final answers.

Are you brave enough to face your stillness?

Are you brave enough to sit in silence?

Are you brave enough to be responsible for the life you are living?

(Feel free to answer in the comments or to write your own blog post and then leave a link in the comments.)

For me, poetry is a primary Path into Stillness and so I leave you with this poem. What could it mean, metaphorically, in your own life?

No Matter Where You Are

Stop saying that you are
from some place else.
Pay attention to the ground that is
under your feet.
Take off your shoes, and
go barefoot in the grasses,
in the sands, in
the waters, in the here,
in the now, in this
right place.

Stop saying that you are
from some place else.
Claim the land
of your birth.
Get on your knees and
put your hands in
the dirt, pull out
weeds by their roots,
plant seeds.
Stay and watch
them sprout and
grow. Care
for them, know
them all.

Stop saying that you are
from some place else.
Lift your face to this
sky, breathe in
deep, feel the air
on your skin.
Open your eyes to
the clouds, open your
ears to the birds.

Be the native
that you
are.

(Photo Credit: Christine C. Reed, False Indigo, 2009)

13 comments:

Emma said...

I love this poem!

I am a big fan of stillness and silence. But I still find myself fleeing it sometimes. Silence and stillness can be scary, because they make it much harder to hide from my own thoughts and fears.

I would write more, but we're having a storm!

Linda-Sama said...

great post and I love the poem!

I love stillness and silence. I am very comfortable with it. Maybe that's because I am very comfortable with myself, warts and all.

My experience with other people is that -- even with "yogis" -- many if not most people are very uncomfortable with stillness and I believe that comes from fear of what they will find. even the "spiritual" ones.

Anonymous said...

That poem is incredibly inspiring! Definitely gives me hope because I was a bit discouraged that my lavendar plant is dying...I'm a first time gardener. And this poem sums up what I wanted to learn from this experience.

I'm looking forward to reading more about the Wisdom of Yoga, although I won't be reading with you. I am taking a break from this type of reading, and declaring summer for pleasure reading. Doesn't mean I can't learn from you guys though!

Namaste'
Jessica

tinkerbell the bipolar faery said...

I did not always treasure silence and stillness ~ they used to scare me. Now they have become an integral part of my daily existence. Further elaborations I will save for a post of my own.

Grace said...

"Get on your knees and
put your hands in
the dirt, pull out
weeds by their roots,
plant seeds.
Stay and watch
them sprout and
grow. Care
for them, know
them all."

I'm learning about stillness and silence from being in my garden--it has more lessons for me than can be found in a church.

kigen said...

More and more things are connecting, and there is a deepening awareness of preparation early on for so much that is coalescing now. Not the preparation that is consciously made, buying, investing, educating, setting aside. It is much deeper, there is so much love flowing into the meaning of things, there IS a divine plan, a sort of life-mandala, maybe covering many lives (if they end incompletely), or maybe just this one life. Silence and stillness — seeing, imagining, seeking Love at the center of it all —

nollyposh said...

ahhh true ~BliSS~

Ellen said...

What a beautiful photograph....

I'm enjoying Cope's book - trying not to leap ahead and find out what happens to the characters, skipping the philosophy.

Regarding stillness - as someone struggling with depression, I am not really managing to do what I need to. Everything is difficult, and I'm still, as in lethargic, too often. My house is a mess, and I'm not working an eight hour day. So I don't really identify with Jake the trial lawyer who drops out of a very high achieving life to focus on stillness instead.

However, I do see that stillness of mind or emotion would be worth striving for. I desperately wish to cope, and even 'find bliss', and with stillness of mind, I bet I could.

The idea of finding stillness in yoga, which is full of movement, is cool...



Ellen

differenceayearmakes said...

Thank you, thank you for suggesting this book - it is so absolutely perfect for me right now - I'm blogging about it in small doses.

Tess said...

One of the reasons I love sharing a reading experience is that others spot different things. Until you picked out the phrase about the absolute brilliance of stillness, I hadn't consciously read it.

My post on this is up at http://www.anchormast.com/2009/06/10/wisdom-is-wisdom/.

Lisa said...

Wow! Super-duper wisdom infusion is already happening from starting this book!

Check out more here:

http://nerdyrenegade.blogspot.com/2009/06/wednesday-wisdom-your-heart-knows.html

claire bangasser said...

You are so wonderfully wise!
What a joy to come here and read you!
Thank you.

Christine Claire Reed said...

Oh, I am very happy to see that even just the beginning pages of this book, the beginning moments of this reading journey are already affecting everyone. Excellent. :)